BDSM: An overlapping abbreviation of Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), Sadism and Masochism (SM)

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The summer before my freshman year of high school, I made the impulsive decision to sneak out and meet a boy I had a crush on for a late-night rendezvous (whatever that meant to my 13 year-old-self). For me, it was innocent. I wanted to see him, my parents were strict, and he had a car with enough space to hang out.

With an innocent heart, I opened the passenger door and stepped into his car, closing the door and everything I thought I knew about him behind me. …

Sex is the most natural thing in the world and yet it is the least talked about.

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The world treats sex as a taboo and goes about doing things without even knowing, yet it is one of the most natural (if not the most natural) behaviors we encounter as humans. Below are 20 facts about sex that you likely never knew before today:

  1. An average healthy man can ejaculate enough sperm in two weeks to impregnate every woman in the world.
  2. Have you ever wondered why it is difficult to urinate immediately after having sex? That’s because when you orgasm, an anti-diuretic hormone is released in your body. …

He wouldn’t have sex with me so I pretended I was having sex with his ex.

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Don’t let the title and subtitle of this one mislead you; that is exactly what happened. I can remember the day vividly as the decision to get off to the person your boyfriend used to get off to doesn’t really disappear from memory easily.

My boyfriend was sitting on the couch, playing a video game with a few of his friends, and giving me the short end of the attention stick. …

Besides stealing all of the covers and leaving 1/4 inch of bed for him to sleep on.

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We all have made mistakes during sex and no one is immune to making them. We can; however, receive warranted shit if we know where we go wrong and still choose to continue with the same behavior. So, to save the men out there some time and the women out there some rejection, here are 5 of the most common ways females fuck up in bed (according to men):

1. Being too rough with his penis.

  • “Grinding too hard on my penis.”
  • “When she is on top and like, moves my penis a weird way.”
  • “If you’re having sex with a woman and she starts going on…

Fellas, this one’s for you.

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I’ve been single for the past few months and what I mean by that is — the action in my bedroom (and every other room in the house) has been truly non-existent. While I could redirect my attention to the contact list in my phone, I would dare to embark on a ‘follow up’ journey with many of them as several check the boxes for things women really wish men would stop doing in the bedroom.

Listen up, fellas:

1. Fingering us like they lost something in the dark

There have been far too many times when I’ve compared a guy’s choice of finger action to a pelvic exam. I…

You may want to go incognito for this one.

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“Hey Babe” (Dominatrix):

“She flicked off the lights and pushed him against the wall. A frame fell face down on the floor and shattered next to them. She didn’t allow him to take notice. She bit at his bottom lip, tugging his face, commanding him to follow her lead as she walked backwards down the hallway, deeper into the darkness, her darkness. And he, submitting to her bestial strength, simply weaved his fingers into the rust of her hair and bowed to her dominion. Like a lowly, unassuming insect, captivated by her hellfire glow.

Halfway down the hall, she slammed him back first…

And why you don’t have to share them

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I have always been a proponent of risque photography — whether it be in the context of a full-fledge photoshoot or the one taken in front of your bathroom mirror, I am a fan. In fact, I have an entire ‘photo vault’ on my phone of my best poses, angles, and assets in case I ever get flirtatious in conversation and am less than ready for my close-up.

Many people wonder why women do this. It isn’t like every man has an archive of dick pics in his phone so why do women have an entire album of options for…

It’s not you, it’s me.

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Some facts of life are sad but true — one of those facts being that climaxing for many women isn’t easy. In fact, the Cleveland Clinic reports that a mere 10% of women can easily achieve an orgasm. The other 90% have to deal with a lot of outside factors from what position they’re in to what they might do all day at work. These factors alone may be inhibiting your ability to get off.

Orgasming for men is generally pretty straight forward, but for many of us women, it’s a whole different ball game. Every woman is built differently…

Coming from a fake orgasm virgin herself.

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There seems to be this tall tale that if a woman is climaxing at a rate deemed more frequent than average, then she must be faking at least one of them.

Well, think again.

As a woman who has yet to feed the ego of the man thrusting into her with kudos of pleasure-giving performance based on false information, I can assure you that this theory does not apply to all of us. …

It’s called “Auralism” and what you don’t see is what you get.

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Lately, I have been especially attuned with a very specific fetish of mine. This fetish is one many obtain, yet few know exists. Auralism is a sexual fetish defined as sexual arousal or excitement caused by sound. This fetish can range from the sound of ASMR-style videos of people eating crunchy foods all up to the sound of a person’s ultimate climax. For me, it is the sound of sexual pleasure itself that gets me going.

As a person with an unignorable sex drive, I have become particularly comfortable with my own body and the things I know set me…

Averie London

Shedding light on the activities typically kept in the dark.

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