8 Things Women Really Wish Men Would Stop Doing In Bed
I’ve been single for the past few months and what I mean by that is — the action in my bedroom (and every other room in the house) has been truly non-existent. While I could redirect my attention to the contact list in my phone, I would dare to embark on a ‘follow up’ journey with many of them as several check the boxes for things women really wish men would stop doing in the bedroom.
Listen up, fellas:
1. Fingering us like they lost something in the dark
There have been far too many times when I’ve compared a guy’s choice of finger action to a pelvic exam. I don’t understand why some men prod around in there like they’re fumbling around for a lost candy bar between couch cushions or trying to grab enough change to tip the pizza guy.
2. Talking about their exes
If you ask me for my opinion, you should expect honest feedback and in return, I expect you to not use it as an opportunity to share examples that tell me why I’m wrong. The truth is, if I wanted to know about the time you made your ex cum 5 times in a single session, believe me — I would ask.
3. Negating foreplay
Do not get lazy with it, guys. Just because you are ready to go the moment your dick gets hard, doesn’t mean she is on the same page. Oftentimes, foreplay can be some of the best part so men, do yourselves (and her) the favor and do not assume that the mere sight of your pelvic region is enough to soak her panties.
4. Choosing to quote a porno as your dirty talk
There is a fine line between dirty talk and the sound of, ‘Give it to me, baby.’ There should be some sort of ‘build-up’ leading to the actual moment of foreplay (and eventually sex) so use this time and dialogue to work out the kinks so you don’t get embarrassed in the bedroom when your cheesy sex lingo makes her dry up like the Sahara.
5. Acting like you’re a work for hire being paid by the hour
Sex is a give and take. Though I have had the enjoyment of being with men who make sure I am enjoying myself, there are still several men out there who considered a woman’s body to be a tool used to pleasure them. There is an entire industry that supports this notion so do not choose to exercise this ideology in any other scenario. If I wanted to be self-centered, I would have stayed with my vibrator at home.
6. Attacking the clit
A woman’s clitoris is not intended for you to take your frustrations out on. Granted, there are women who like it a bit rougher than others; however, this is still an extremely sensitive area that needs to be warmed up prior to action. And for the love of all that is good, quit with the ‘licking and rubbing like you’re trying to get a stain out.’
How To Go Down On Your Woman The Right Way
If you’re skipping out on any of these things, you’re likely doing it wrong.
7. Assuming we’ve finished because you did
There is absolutely zero ‘built-in synchronicities’ when it comes to the orgasm of a male and female (or male-male and female-female) so the simple fact that you have achieved orgasm does not automatically mean the other person has too. Consider attending to her needs before blissfully passing out on the pillow next to her.
8. Sucking our ‘parts’
I don’t know who told men that ‘sucking and pulling’ is an orgasmic experience for a lady, but I am here to set the record straight. I have had cringe-worthy experiences of a man pulling on my precious lady parts, though I asked him to stop. Do not be that guy and acknowledge the fact that we’re already worried about our boobs reaching our knees one day, we don’t need our genitals joining.